Are you an adult who has never reached your full potential because you suffer from mental health problems such as low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, PTSD, perfectionism, procrastination or lack of motivation? Have you been too fearful of being judged to see a therapist? Have you worked with one or more psychotherapists in the past who were not able to pinpoint or resolve the cause of your problem? Trauma during your developmental years can hold you back from achieving success and fulfillment at work or in relationships. Many clients of mine began their therapy believing they had a happy child without any trauma. Sometimes it's because they dissociated from and repressed the memories of their trauma. More often it's because they were not subjected to flagrant trauma such as being screamed at, shamed and humiliated, physically beaten, locked in a closet or sexually abused.
What these clients did not realize at first but ended up learning is that childhood trauma can occur in non-obvious and subtle ways that have a profound, lasting, negative impact on a person's self-concept and self-esteem. Childhood trauma includes being ignored, emotionally invalidated, scapegoated for family dysfunction, compared unfavorably to other siblings or burdened with parental duties that parents are unable or unwilling to perform. It includes growing up in a chaotic household where your parents' moods and their attitude towards you shifted fequently and unpredictably. Sometimes trauma consists of witnessing and having to keep secrets about your parents' alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction or pattern of domestic violence. Were one or both of your parents mentally ill? Did one or both go to prison? Did one of them die young due to an accident, a frightening disease or a suicide? Did your parents allow an older sibling to bully you? Did your parents expect you to parent your younger siblings while they partied or went on vacations? All of these are examples of childhood trauma significant enough to interfere with your development and with your level of achievement, success, and happiness as an adult.
Survivors of childhood trauma find a way to make it, but their survival comes at a cost. You are now an adult and although you pretend to feel OK to others, inside you hide decades of suffering from emotional and/or stress-induced somatic problems. Relevant examples are: obsessive and punitive self-criticism, crippling perfectionism, imposter syndrome, depression, emotional numbness, dissociation, anxiety, OCD, nightmares, insomnia, fatigue, stress headaches, abdominal distress, bowel problems, and fibromyalgia. You desperately want change, but nothing really changes no matter how many self-improvement books and videos you consume. There are moments when you just want to scream or call out to God explain why you have been singled out for so much pain. What would it be worth to you to work with me in therapy and accomplish permanent positive change? What would it be worth to you to break the chain of intergenerational trauma, actualize your full potential, and make a fresh start for yourself and your descendants?
When you see me in therapy you get a therapist who is trained and experienced in helping adult clients heal childhood trauma. You get a calm, reassuring presence, and a deep, highly focused listener who wants to see and feel the world through your eyes. I am touched by and genuinely responsive to your experiences, your story, and your needs. You don't get a bunch of formulaic, one-size-fits-all therapy techniques from me. My approach involves mutual collaboration, emotional attunement, empathy, emotional support, and the creative use of therapeutic tools customized to heal your specific trauma. I know that revisiting old trauma through memory or even just talking about it can be frightening and triggering, so I teach you how to keep yourself safe before we start processing any trauma. We process the trauma together while I continue to help you stay safe and make it to the other side where you experience relief.
I am very fond of humor to decrease tension, fear, and overblown worries, and to provide a more realistic, objective perspective. I find that humor is a wonderful medium for our connection and collaboration in your healing journey. I do therapy for individuals online and in-person. Isn't it time to learn to harvest the good and blossom as a person instead of narrowing your focus to what is wrong or bad in your life? Isn't it time to discover or create meaning and joy in your everyday life? For those of you who enjoy reading blog article about mental health topics I post weekly on Linkedin.com under the name Harvey Hyman.
For people who can't make time for office sessions or prefer the flexibility of working from home I offer online counseling. For people who prefer group work I offer 3-5 day retreats. Depending on interest, I can fashion retreats for small groups of people with a common therapuetic issue.
"No bird soars too high if he soars on his own wings." William Blake
HARVEY HYMAN, LPCC
Harvey grew up with a high degree of energy, spontaneity, playfulness, and humor. He believes that laughter and tears are the most human form of expression and a great way to connect with one's deepest self and with others. Harvey views therapy as an opportunity to revive, embrace, and live your authentic feelings. He uses a holistic, integrated approach to treating anxiety, depression, and trauma that includes meditation, visualization, nature reconnection, and nutritional psychiatry.